A habit is a repeated behaviour so many times that it has become more or less automatic.
By always having the same habits, we obtain the same results. But by changing them, he opens up the field of possibilities and with better habits, it is possible to climb steps of grandeur and achieve excellence.
By developing healthy habits with the goal of achieving long-term benefits, you will accumulate so many good little habits that they will make you achieve results that will exceed your expectations.
This will make you more efficient, more productive, less anxious and less stressed! In short, you will live better.
It’s so easy to get into bad habits
To succeed, you will need habits that are meaningful enough to achieve your ultimate goal. Very often, the power of habits is largely underestimated. We will understand why it is so difficult to adopt good habits.
Your habits are choices you make every day! You take your coffee, put on your shoes, put on deodorant, meditate, smoke a cigarette or procrastinate, etc. There are good habits and bad habits !
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In the desire to change and in the absence of a knowledge of yourself (your psychological needs), the road will be much longer to change your habits. If, however, you fail to achieve your goals, do not criticize or blame yourself because the problem comes from your strategies that you have adopted that are ineffective.
Until you become aware of your unconscious, it will direct your life and you would call it fateCARL JUNG
If you think that habits are the result of your free will and individual thinking, you are wrong. In reality, this is not the case! We usually react automatically in response to our environment, our emotions and the problems we encounter.
Borrowing a wrong choice, a wrong decision is easy when you get an immediate result. You will only feel the negative consequences much later. For example, smoking causes immediate pleasure with nicotine, yet we know the long-term negative consequences. Or, watching a screen late before bedtime causes immediate pleasure, while in the long term it can cause sleep disorders.
Too many choices, kill the choice! We can talk about decision fatigue. The more decisions we make, the worse they are. You will tend to make bad decisions in an environment, a context that encourages decision-making fatigue.
- Your motivation always disappears at times and will never be enough.
- Your concentration is still lacking with all the distractions in the area.
- Sometimes your willingness will be missing because you will be tired and weakened.
The biggest obstacle in acquiring a new habit and what is difficult to start and maintain over time. Let’s see the 3 reasons :
The “modern” world affects us considerably in our ability to make choices. The brain is not made for the world we live in. It has not evolved to withstand so many rewards on a daily basis. It must be understood that the more you go back in time, the more you can see that rewards were rare and we naturally kept a search for pleasure to avoid pain.
There are three reasons for the difficulty of maintaining habits over the long term :
- The lack of knowledge between good and bad habits and its structure to take advantage of them.
- You tend to want to do too much and too fast. This increases your exposure to failure and frustration.
- You’re just not necessarily ready to change.
Apply the right strategy to develop your good habits
If you observe the life of a dissatisfied person, by looking carefully, you will notice bad habits that prevent him from being where he would like to be, such as finding love, starting a business, developing a network, a social circle or even all at once.
All our habits, that is, what we do repeatedly, shape who you are and even more so the person you will become! If you think you’re acting rationally and thoughtfully, I have to tell you you’re wrong. We are much more predictable than we might think.
Success is nothing more than simple disciplines practiced every day and failure is nothing more than the repetition of a few mistakes every dayJIN ROHN
You must understand that all behaviour is the result of a series of trials and errors that lead to the acquisition process. Faced with the analysis of the problem you have identified, you mobilize a lot of mental resources to try to make the best decision.
4 steps define a good habit :
- Find a trigger to start a habit.
- Define the need to act and stay motivated.
- Makes it easy to do so.
- Find a satisfactory reward for keeping a valid reason to maintain the need or desire over time.
2 phases for a habit :
- The identification of a problem that brings together the trigger and the desire. It is the awareness of a constraining or unpleasant situation.
- The problem solving that brings together the answer to the problem and its reward. There are a multitude of habits to solve a problem, it is only a matter of past experience and learning (your time & attention spent on the subject).
The result is success, but under certain conditions
The conditions for success are created by all our daily habits. Even with those that are very simple and seem insignificant to us.
A habit is a super power that gives you the motivation to take on new challenges, the knowledge to better understand it and the discipline to stick to it.
You need to take the time to take the joy of a positive habit and let time do the rest. The sum total of these choices will lead you to express your full potential.
If you observe the best performers, you will notice that they do not let themselves be trapped by the immediate pleasures. They focus all their efforts on their work to reap the long-term benefits. They have incredible habits.
Un voyage de mille lieues commence toujours par un premier pasLAO TSEU
By simplifying your decision-making, you will find fertile ground to devote yourself to your work, your passions and your hobbies. However, as mentioned above, you must meet the following 3 conditions for this behaviour to occur :
Make it so easy that you can’t say noLEO BABAUTA
To develop a new habit, it is essential to start with an action that is very simple to perform so that your brain can easily learn and repeat it quickly.
In your willingness to change, your personal change will require you to be patient. A change process always begins with awareness. To help you do this, it is important to map your existing habits ( an inventory) to become aware of your automatisms before you even want to change them.
7 steps to becoming the person you want to be
- Step 1 – Make an inventory of your current habits : Your change process requires awareness. With this in mind, I invite you to write down all your habits to step back and face your automatic and routine behaviours. You need to focus your habits according to your objectives. Remember that there are no good or bad habits, only effective habits to solve problems. Once the list is established, ask yourself these 2 questions: Am I in a good or bad habit ? Does my habit commit me to becoming the person I want to be ?
- Step 2 – Define your master habit : This habit will be the foundation on which all the other habits will rest. Our reserve of will is limited, it is better to focus on a single change to avoid too much dispersion and make it simple. Ask yourself the following question: What is the habit that would give more concrete impact ?
- Step 3 – Start slowly and get better every day : It is impossible to reach the top of a mountain without thinking about climbing it ! First try to make small changes to anchor them before you do more. It is better to start by trying to normalize before trying to optimize.
- Step 4 – Associate your habit with an obvious trigger : You need to create an environment that allows you to develop your habit. For example, to encourage reading, you can set up a library and put your books in it. To code, you need a computer, the right software and exercises to train and progress. You can define an action plan that can free you from the mental effort of your new habit. For example, “I will code every day” becomes “I will write at least 10 lines of code at home from 7:30 pm”. This way, you can stack up these good habits and write a program.
- Step 5 – Reward yourself and make your habit satisfying : By producing a positive thought, you will indicate to your brain your action satisfies your desire and you will reproduce it more easily. A good example is all those footballers who, once the goal has been scored, let their joy explode in front of the fans and their team-mates.
- Step 6 – Be the architect of your choice : You can reduce the friction between yourself and your good habits by designing your environment as well as possible. Put away everything that needs to be put away, clear your desk that could clutter your mind, etc. By properly arranging your space, you will encourage your unconscious mind to make better decisions.
- Step 7 – Find your tribe: A tribe is made up of these 3 elements : a leader, a group of people and a common cause. Your attitude and thoughts differ depending on who you are with. In this way, you will be able to absorb the qualities and practices of the people you will model. It is important for you to surround yourself with people with positive thinking.
To go further…
Onur Karapinar. 51 pratiques inspirantes pour devenir la meilleure version de vous de soi-même. In : Petites habitudes Grandes réussites [Online] The format of the paper book available in French on : < https://amzn.to/3gbKjRj >